I can’t remember which movie this line came from, but it was from something I watched recently. A man had major reservations about fessing up how much he likes this girl, and not wanting to take the plunge for fear that it may be a wrong decision, he then asks for a friend’s opinion and this little conversation took place:
Bachelor: You’re married, so how do you make it stick?
Married Friend: It’s really not about making it stick, you gotta make the glue man.
Bachelor: And what if after you try, it still all falls apart?
Married Friend: Then you’ll know that you just don’t fit together.
Recently I spent a long time with an old friend who has had more than her fair share of marital woes. In her case, I guess, they just did not fit together..twice over! She’s such a dear ole friend and to listen to all her pain brought tears to my eyes. Even thinking about it brings about a lump in my throat. It’s been so long since we shared our life stories and although many years have passed, it was good to know that we could pick up where we left off. We laughed a lot that day but we cried too and I can’t help but admire her for her sheer guts.
I cannot claim I have the perfect marriage. These days life is generally good and although there are still days I get so mad with him that I can scream, well, I don’t. Things can be a lot worse I tell myself..and with him having given up smoking and has been “sober” for 2 weeks now, gives me all the reason to be happy and contented.
Coming back to that line from the movie, so, how do you make the glue? I guess with a lot of love and laughter, tolerance and understanding and most of all sometimes you just need the resolve to make it stick - unless of course in the case of my girlfriend, the guy turns out to be a total jerk, then it’s his loss. I guess sometimes you gotta find what makes the glue, the elements that make things work. The elements that make you both want to make it work, no matter what.
In my case, I must admit, the strongest and most effective glue are the kids, more so our precious angel..
Just two days ago, out of the blue, he hugged his dad’s neck real tight and suddenly said, please try, please try, never start again, ok daddy, I love you. That stunned us both and moved daddy to bits – it also made daddy vow, ok son, I will always remember that voice if ever I feel the urge to start again..
You just can’t beat that kinda glue….
3 comments:
Nice entry. Enjoyed reading it. Haqim is so adorable. :)
Thanks. Yup, that was a really a sweet gesture from my precious. Needless to say, the dad was rendered quite speechless that day.
I think it may just be the final 1% push he'd need to quit for good this time. Otherwise, what would he tell his son for breaking that promise? Esp seeing how much it means to Haqim. Insylh it's for real la kali ni. :)
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