Pieces of Wisdom

I know I sometimes grumble but I also know for a fact that life is sweet..Somebody very special sent me some pieces of wisdom, and together with a few of my own thoughts, I came up with this.

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1. Jangan mengharap, especially from people closest to us because when we expect something in return, we will be easily frustrated when nothing comes our way.

2. Always try to avoid situations that can bring about anger towards the people closest to us because that anger will create a wall that will inevitably block our true feelings of love that exists deep within. ..menjadi pendinding kepada perasaan kasih sayang yang sememangnya ada.

3. Never make a habit of sweeping things under the carpet. When the “work” of addressing issues or carrying out tasks need to be done, try not let it be a burden because when it becomes burdensome it crease displeasure and stress. The thing to remember is when it starts feeling like a burden, stop before the negativity transmits over.

4. A dear ole friend used to say that between a husband and wife, likewise amongst family members, it is never appropriate to practice the concept of ‘give and take’. That should solely be reserved for business deals. With loved ones, whatever we get in return is a bonus when we do not start out expecting.

5. If our loved ones, kids included, do not listen, continue reminding as gently as we possibly can, mengikut kemampuan kita masing-masing. Let them fail, if they need to. But we must learn not to get overly upset if they do. And be there to help them pick up the pieces.

6. With our children, more often than not, we “let go” maybe because we feel we are the parents, we know more, etc etc. Kids are regular human beings with feelings too. People say we have to be careful with our maids because we don’t want them running away - with our children. Well, more so with our own kids, surely we must always exercise care and sensitivity when addressing our own brood.

7. There was once a boy who due to lack of love and attention rebelled and turned to drugs and became suicidal. Many years later this boy lived, and told of how his grandmother’s tough love saved his life. No matter how bad he got, the grandmother never once gave up on him. Somebody termed things like this as ‘management with the heart’.

8. If we are always angry, those vibes will rub off the people around us. Even if there is love, it will be clouded by that constant anger. Instead, if there is always love and affection, and grouses are not blown out of proportion, whenever there are instances of anger, those vibes will not rub off as hard.

9. Children are essentially a "work in progress". They are still learning the act of self control. In some cases, kids somehow inherit less of the positive virtues from parents but tend to pick up the not so good qualities instead. They are young and need to know how to manage their own feelings and sometimes turmoil within them. It isn’t exactly their fault that they got into all that "spilt gravy on rice" issues. They did not decide the gene pool they came from.

10. At the end of the day, when we view things as difficult, they will always be difficult. So always be prepared that occasionally yes, things will not be easy. That way it’s easier to deal with disappointments and we do not get disillusioned. Because finally, there is that certainty, - life has it’s tough moments.


Finally, I have this to say..and you know it's meant for you..

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