Post raya

It looks like it’s been awhile since I last blogged and I feel there is just soo much to write about…! It’s been relatively exciting these past couple of weeks..first it was raya and all..and then a round of “ping-ponging”, (if I may borrow from my sil)..of e-mails that were unnecessary – to say the least. And then there was my son and his first major disappointment in life..

Raya was good..with many happy moments and having lil Ben for awhile was also loads of fun. Raya open houses were generally tiring but fun to catch up with those you do not meet often. I must have over did it as far as the activities go though because now my throat feels terrible and I have been feeling feverish all morning.

Then there was mil’s birthday bash and we had a good time at the determined venue. The event was planned at the very last minute to be out of the ordinary this year due to some developments with the ole’ man, my dear fil. That, btw, was a TOTALLY unnecessary episode. Nope, not the birthday do – but rather the events that led to the birthday do. All I can say is, I pray to God neither me nor hubby will not turn out anything remotely close to that – merajuk tak tentu hala..

Ok..then there was that ping-pong-ing thingy. I have long realized that coming from the same womb is by no means an assurance that people think alike. As a matter of fact, I am all for “agreeing to disagree” but it is always the spirit that is questionable. The intention, and the approach, the perspective of the issues that can be so easily distorted….those are the things that irk me. Me- emotional..? I admit I can be so at times but in this particular case, emo was not it – I was just plain tired. Something so simple surely did not merit such overwhelming attention. I would have appreciated if the response came back in a “yes, but” manner rather than thrashing it and taking it totally out of context. Ni yang orang kata benda tak susah, tapi kita yang buat jadi susah. But then again, I have to respect how others feel so que sera sera je lah..

Meanwhile, our brief vacation was simply awesome..! We managed to have a great time on a very careful budget. I happen to see things this way - if we have to wait until we are totally debt free and have achieved absolute financial freedom before we can get away for a few days..I reckon it would have had to be a very long wait. Thus, the trip.

And just days after we got back, Arief got his results. It was disappointing and he was badly affected by it. I really felt for him but in all honesty, I feel it was a much needed jolt for Arief. My doa is he will learn a thing or two from this whole episode and turn this into a significant turning point in his life. As a mother, I wept with him and shared his sorrow but deep within me, I knew this was a blessing in disguise. I pray he will not let this setback deter him and will just pick himself up again and move on.

After all, sometimes we all need bitter lessons in life to appreciate life in itself. I should know, I think I have had my fair share of those.